But the truth is, what others think of you is none of your business. It is only their business, and can only be their business, as no one perceives the world in the same way. We all observe and identify with the world through our own lenses, our unique filter system. Our filter system is created by experience. Each one of us has our own history, both individually and collectively as part of a familial group. As such, we will process information within the framework of that history and experience, basing all our judgements regarding the world on our personal experiences. Since not everyone’s experiences are the same, perceptions and judgements cannot be the same. Human feelings are rooted in familiarity, and judgements derived from that familiarity will often transcend common sense or reason. In other words, there is nothing you can do about someone else’s perceptions.
When someone doesn’t like you, it’s about them, not you. In fact, no matter how any one feels about you, it is still all about them. It doesn’t matter if someone feels a great deal of loathing toward you, or a great deal of love. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them.
On our walk of life, being met with disdain, distrust, or dis-interest from others is hurtful and difficult. Remembering that others don’t see the world the same way you do, and continuing to always do your best, will soften the blow of animosity. Once you begin to understand this, compassion becomes your armor and kindness your strength.
And what happens? It kills your joy of the moment.
And that’s a problem, because we all want to be liked, and admired, and cherished. And why wouldn’t we? It’s our natural instinct, it’s in our DNA. If is our divine right to be happy and joyful. We strive for joy and happiness, which includes human connection.
It kills my Joy.
“…The bad thing about life is not aging, it is that you lived as a slave, trapped in what other might think about you.” Anonymous